Identify the six phases of Duck's model of ending relationships, and provide a description for each.

Question

What will be an ideal response?

Answer 1

1. The intrapsychic stage
* The first stage that occurs when we engage in intrapersonal communication in the form of an internal evaluation of our partner and the relationship.
* During this stage, we may decide whether or not remaining in the relationship is worth it, depending in part on the costs and rewards associated with the relationship, according to the social exchange theory.
* We might also "leak" thoughts and feelings to the other person by our behavior, such as becoming more hostile. Emotional displays of hostility, anxiety, stress, or guilt might trigger questions or confrontation from our partner.
2. The confidant phase
* During this stage, we discuss and evaluate the relationship, our concerns, and options with someone other than our partner (friends, family, or counselors).
* These confidants might act as mediators, encouraging reconciliation and suggesting ways to repair the relationship, or they might reinforce a decision to separate.
* It is also possible that we would not even discuss our concerns with our partner if the conversation with our confidant reduces our negative appraisal or produces strategies to improve our satisfaction.
3. The dyadic phase
* During this stage, we discuss termination of the relationship with our partner.
* If our partner feels challenged and intimidated by our desire to end the relationship, we might have to justify our thoughts and feelings.
* Our partner might criticize our behavior and identify our failings, which could in turn raise issues that cause us to reevaluate the relationship, our partner, and the costs of dissolving the relationship.
4. The social phase
* This stage occurs when the couple decides to tell members of their social networks that a decision to end the relationship has been made.
* Sometimes the friends will mobilize to preserve the relationship. They may act as mediators. On the other hand, they may reinforce the decision to separate.
* Rumors that occur may cause further damage and hasten the end of the relationship.
5. The grave-dressing phase
* During this stage, one or both partners will try to cover up the hurt and pain associated with the death of the relationship by creating a public story that they can share with others about what happened.
* This story can be either positive or negative about the relationship and/or the other person.
6. The resurrection phase
* During this stage we review and adjust our perspectives on self, others, and relationships, while beginning the pursuit of new meaningful relationships. We determine things to avoid or not to repeat in the future.