Mr. Reed has several students in his class whose families use corporal punishment to discipline their children. One day at lunch, these students begin sharing stories about getting in trouble and the physical punishment they’ve experienced. Mr. Reed isn’t sure what to do with this information. He wants to be respectful of parenting differences, but the stories are hard to listen to. What should Mr. Reed keep in mind regarding this situation--is it parenting differences or abuse?

Question

What will be an ideal response?

Answer 1

It is important that Mr. Reed be aware of long-standing cultural beliefs and differences among individual families. Without this awareness, he will make assumptions about families that may be incorrect.
It is important that he build relationships with families to understand their cultural beliefs and practices, which may lead to actions that appear to be abusive or neglectful. He can learn more about families’ cultural beliefs and practices relating to guidance and discipline, not only by talking with families but also by researching the culture, talking with colleagues and others in the community, reading professional literature, and even attending workshops or courses relating to different cultural beliefs.
He should keep in mind that when punishment goes beyond “reasonable” or causes “serious harm,” it is not legal or acceptable, regardless of the cultural beliefs and practices. He should report any suspicions of abuse and trust his instincts when he believes children are in need of protection.