Sixty-year-old Duane congratulated himself on a powerful finish to a long swim as he dried himself off at poolside. "Sixty years old? More like 45, my friend," he smiled tohimself.Later that day, over lunch, Duane's grandson told him of an opportunity to enroll in a hotel management training program. But, he said, "I don't see myself as a manager. I don't think that program is for me.""Lashawn, this is a great opportunity," argued Duane. "Do well and they'll offer you a job with benefits. You can work your way up and maybe someday be the manager of a high-class hotel."Over the next half hour, Lashawn described his longheld goal of becoming a professional musician."Gramps, I'm not a clean-cut business person. I'm creative. Besides, the band is doing really well. We have a weekly gig lined
up and we're talking about going on tour. That's who I am-a musician."Duane continued to encourage Lashawn to register for the training program. "You can play with your band on weekends and go to the training during the week," he advised. Then he confided, "You know, when I was your age I planned on being a musician. I wanted to be famous and have a glamourous life."This caught Lashawn by surprise. "What happened, Gramps?""Life," answered Duane. "I met your grandmother and settled down. I started to want different things, like being a good father. I realized I wasn't a very good guitar player-at least not as good as I thought when I was a kid. Looking back, I am proud of the life I built with your grandmother, and it's OK that I'm not a great musician or famous. I'll admit, though, that I don't love my job.""See? I want to love what I do!" Lashawn interjected.Duane nodded. "But I didn't have the same opportunities as you. I started working at the factory because I was 18 and I needed to support myself. Now I have children and grandchildren I'm proud of, and, heck, I look pretty good too! Yes, work days are long but I manage the floor now so it's easier on my bones. Just a little while longer and I'll retire.""Gramps, I don't want to wake up and see I've spent 40 years in a job I don't love.""Lashawn, it takes time to figure yourself out and that's something that only you can do. I can only say I wish I'd had this opportunity when I was 18. Everything might have been very different. I hope you'll think about it some more."Describe Duane's sense of self, including his self-concept, self-esteem, and identity. How does he view his own age and capacities? How has his sense of self shifted during his lifetime?
What will be an ideal response?
Suggested Answer: Duane's sense of self revolves around his vocation and his family relationships. His self-esteem is healthy. As he matured, he considered the needs of others as well as his own.
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