Explain the concept of flirtation within Simmel’s larger framework of duality. Also, provide other forms of sociability and explain how they function as a play-form of association.

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Answer 1

We do not always engage in interactions for strategic or objective purposes. Sometimes we find ourselves interacting with others simply for the sake of the connection itself. Simmel called this form of interaction “sociability,” or the “play-form of association.” Sociable conversations have no significance or ulterior motive outside the encounter itself. As soon as the truthfulness of the conversation’s content or the striving for personal rewards or goals is made the focus, the encounter loses its playfulness. Sociability establishes an “artificial” world, a world without friction or inequalities. A particular kind of sociability that epitomizes the duality of social life discussed previously is flirtation or coquetry. Flirtation is a type of erotic playfulness in which an actor continuously alters between consent and denial. Should a final decision be revealed, resolving the tension between consent and denial, the “play” is over. Other forms of conversation a student might use as an example: anecdotes, idle chatter, mild humor or witticisms.