We all are onions with many, many layers, and when we first meet someone, we are careful about what we say—our onion layers stay in place. However, as time goes by, we begin to peel back our layers. At first we might talk about the weather and then progress to certain classes or professors. These comments are low risk and really don't involve sharing too much personal information. However, the next layer may include information about politics or family relationships, and the information gets more personal. As you begin to reveal your layers, so, too, does your partner. if you share something personal about yourself, your partner will probably do the same.